Falling Down and Falling Apart

I believe you get one major choice in life; you either accept what happens to you and become a product of your circumstances or you decide how you want to live life and take deliberate action to make that a reality. I’m not saying either is right or wrong, I am just saying you do have a choice.

You see, life hasn't been too kind to me recently, when my Mum was just 54 her time was up, she died after a long battle with cancer and it broke my heart. And then loads of other stuff got pretty shit too, my relationship broke down, I got out of shape because I was comfort eating, I trained incredibly hard for a half marathon and had to pull out due to injury, my business suffered because I had lost confidence and focus and I teetered on the edge of a breakdown. So, yeah, sometimes something shit happens that isn’t your fault, truly, not your fault, but everything that came after that I was in control of. I don’t like the word blame, it makes people feel guilty, so I don’t blame myself and no one else would either. But I do find it empowering to believe I have control over the situation. I can consciously decide how I want to experience life, even if that just means day by day doing little things that make a difference.

I believe it is possible to turn any situation around and with that belief system I am able to keep moving forward, without it, I would stay stuck and in a lot of pain. And for me, that always starts with the foundation of the body.

When I began my weight loss journey I knew with total certainty that it was possible, I didn’t know how and I didn’t know when it would happen but I knew it would, so I just keep going. It was painful at times, physically and emotionally but I knew pain equalled growth, I knew I had to go through it to get the outcome I desired.

The first time I lifted a weight it felt foreign, uncertain; Was I doing it wrong? Would I hurt myself? Would it work? So I started small, and I just kept doing it, until I was sure I was doing it right, I was confident I wouldn’t hurt myself and it started to work. My brain made new neurological pathways and things started to make sense. And the more I did it, the more I enjoyed it and I soon forgot that it was painful in the early days. I had grown, I had moved forward and I truly had a new lease of life.

And sometimes when I train I don’t feel the same excitement for it, I don’t feel as engaged, my mind is distant or I don’t attack it with the same gusto I did, but that doesn’t mean I don’t do it. Sometimes doing the little things and going through the motions is the greatest achievement of them all.

Some days I get excited about making a fresh juice, some days I do it because I know it’s good for me and I should be doing it, either way, I do it and I feel better for doing so.

The truth is I don’t want to feel like this anymore, I don’t want to hurt, feel frustrated, angry, like I am failing in some way. It’s time to get back in the ring, feel strong, capable and energetic. I know exactly what I need to do and I have full belief that I am capable of doing it and so what if I fall down/apart a few times along the way, as long as I trust myself to go back up who gives a f*** - remember there are two types of people and I know which one I’d rather be!

This is just some of the mindset I teach my clients, and once we master that we get the other important stuff done too! If you want to work with me because you are tired of feeling like life is happening to you and you don’t know what to do about it then why not apply here for a free consultation and let’s see how I can help you!