The Big Move
can’t tell you how many car journeys were spent musing ‘where are we going to live?’. Dan and I met in Bristol but I am from Conrwall and he’s from Devon, the coast has our hearts.
We had been together for 10 years, got married and had our boy Zach when we finally put our stake in the ground here in Southbourne. Like all life-changing, big decisions we made it seemingly on a whim, but it had been a long time coming, and in my heart, it just felt, right.
We spent a weekend here in late November for Dan’s birthday and my heart just felt happy, in a way it hadn’t in a long long time. It’s been a hard few years I guess, losing Mum, health anxiety, birth trauma, post natal-depression, lockdowns - I was starting to forget what it felt like for my heart to feel free. But here, by the sea, I felt light again, I felt like I could breathe.
I think it’s normal to fear change, healthy too, our brain is designed to protect us and familiarity can feel safe. But what if the familiar isn’t working for you. What if just because you know it, it feels certain, doesn’t mean it’s right, what if it isn’t safe after all?
It’s so easy to stay stuck, in the wrong relationship, the wrong job, in a body that isn’t making you feel as confident and sexy as you deserve to. The fear of failure is perhaps the biggest barrier to change and also the fear of the unknown, I get it, I’m scared too. But one thing I have learnt is that we all have the ability to make life amazing, it’s just most of us are too afraid to say ‘yes’ and embrace our desire for something better.
I feel at home here, I know in my heart I have made the right decision but it hasn’t been easy, settling a toddler into a new nursery and taking away my entire support network. Building my business from scratch again, where no one knows my name and being even further from family can make me feel nervous and alone. Making a big change wasn’t easy for me, and it might not be for you either and you might be asking what if I fail? Well, what if you fly? You’ll never know if you never try.
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